Life tends to present increasingly more-complex issues. The more willing we are to prepare to face change and challenge, the better we will be equipped to understand what’s going on when we are faced with new experiences and new problems.
This is an (almost completely) true story about old people in love. It is given a stream-of-consciousness treatment that reflects the tender tedium of elder care. It is only right to tell you up front that, by the end, most early readers wanted to reach for a tissue and a good friend.
My home town has a Labor Day rodeo that dates back almost 80 years. The story goes that a young boy started doing rope tricks for nickles down by the picnic grounds. Today, he is "the last of the real cowboys," and an iconic local hero.
The ability to communicate about issues, including our values, is what draws us together as friends, families, and communities. When we can communicate, we can work together to solve problems. We can unite for common goals and for our common good.
Communities do not allow unlimited personal freedoms. In fact, one of the properties of communities is that they are intrusive and coercive. People in communities voluntarily give up some individual liberties and, in the spirit of Ephesians 5:21, “submit to one another” for the common good.
Although we may feel that there is a true inner “us,” we very rarely show it to others. We each own too many public faces to plausibly maintain that there is only one authentic self. When one of the faces that you present in a given circumstance is not working for you, consider deliberately adjusting it.
Having someone criticize the community to which you belong does not have to damage your self-esteem. Your response is dependent on the nature of your own character, values, and worldview. Sometimes, I have found myself in groups that are regarded negatively.
“Dear Kat, I love your essays. But, you have discovered that people who write like you do are really annoying. This is actually a good thing. Don’t worry about it. Keep it up. Perfect your art. I got a bumper sticker for my wife’s car that said, "Well behaved women seldom make history."
Our elected President is expected to represent all Americans. He is responsible for managing a civil society that protects life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness for all of us. Modern civilizations like ours work best when no one is allowed to cause others to be excluded.
Having lived in this small rural town for only two years, I’m still a bit of an outsider. I joined the Lion’s Club until my social anxieties got too severe. I smile and speak kindly at every opportunity, and wrote a series of positive local feature articles for the local paper. I had a stroke last year.
He asked me why I had picked him up. I said, “Well, I’ve become absolutely certain that we’re all in this together and it really bothers me when people take the attitude that as long as they get theirs, everybody else can go to heck.”
While I was with Amoco, they gave me a series of career-development psychology tests. In one of them, my top two archetype identifications were found to be “Evangelist” and “Warrior.” That was tough news for someone with social anxieties. There’s more…
If you are a conservative, you will blame lack of work ethic, family or religious values, or some other personal weakness. If you are a liberal, your explanation will tend to focus on lack of education, oppression, social injustice, or some other outside influence.
When you’re been married for a long time, some of the best things are the quiet, delicate, unexpected joys that land on you, like the cool flutter of a butterfly, for just a moment. I kissed her gently on the head and told her that I loved her.